Don’t You Dare Text Him Back: Toxic Relationship Recovery

About the Author

Sara Lynne George is a 35-year-old with experience well beyond her years. She is educated in business and has a bachelor’s degree with a marketing, management, and communications focus. She enjoys advocating and is what some would call a humanitarian, her passion is assisting in solving the homeless crisis in her community, as well as volunteering at a national level. Her drive and passion come from a past full of trauma and pain. Right before her graduation from high school her mother was given 30 days to live and made it 28 days before passing from stage 4 lung cancer with brain metastasis. Struggling to find her place in the world Sara struggled with co-dependency and a string of broken relationships until she realized she needed to take her life and value it, especially because nobody else was. After the last attempt at love failed Sara had enough and decided no woman or person should be confused about who they are. She wanted to tell the women and men confused as to what was going on all about the trauma bond, and most importantly how to escape it. So she did, and that’s how we get to read “don’t you dare text him back.” Sara has plans to release another book in May 2023, and this one will be a non-fiction tale of a friend she lost to suicide 2 years ago. Looking forward to her future writings.

Qn 1: Can you tell us more about your book, Don’t You Dare Text Him Back: Toxic Relationship Recovery, What is it about?

My book is about escaping the trauma bond that keeps you in the pain of your current situation. It’s a process of self-will and determination to separate yourself from the toxic person in your life. It is a plan to give insight to women and men who are stuck in unhealthy situations.

Qn 2: Who do you think would be interested in this book, Don’t You Dare Text Him Back: Toxic Relationship Recovery, is it directed at any particular market?

Anybody who is dwelling in the negativity that they see as life. The hopeless and alone individual wonders why they are so empty inside when they are with their partner. The confused person who sits and thinks “if only I did my hair differently he would show more love” the person who wants to experience a healthy relationship and escape the current relationship.

Qn 3: Out of all the books in the world, and all the authors, which are your favourite and why?

My favorite book is Jeanette Walls’ “the glass castle” I could relate to her eccentric upbringing and I enjoyed reading her view of how she was brought up as opposed to the other people in the story and their view on the lifestyle. Great read!

Qn 4: What guidance would you offer to someone new, or trying to enhance their writing?

Just do it, and do it often. Don’t be timid, or vague, write your heart out and do it honestly. Never hide your truth or else it won’t help others. Honesty is necessary when writing non-fiction.

Qn 5: Where can our readers find out more about you, do you have a website, or a way to be contacted?

You can find me on Wattpad.com SaraMansell7, or TikTok then.there’s.mom

Qn 6: What advice would you give someone who has experienced abuse?

 If you have experienced abuse then I just want to tell you how proud I am of you for getting out of bed this morning. Every smile you forced because you fought your urges to give him/her another chance is heroic, and I want to tell you that you are doing amazing. I hope my book doesn’t bring back the trauma, and if it does I hope it helps you heal and become that wonderful human being they tried to silence, or lessen. Be loud, be funny, wear red lipstick, get some nails girlfriend, because if it’s you its time to celebrate yourself.

Qn 7: What are the signs that people should look out for?

It doesn’t have to leave marks or physically harm you to be abusive. Manipulation, stonewalling (silent treatment), using sex as a reward/punishment, condescending remarks, constant sarcasm, and crude remarks in regard to personal things such as weight, all that consistently will cause trauma. if they do it once and you express your feelings and it continues, that is an obvious red flag. I discuss a lot of this in my book, and I hope everyone learns something from it that will allow healing.

Qn 8: Where should people turn to get help?

Don’t get stuck in the cycle. It is easy to go from being abused to being comforted by the abuse. There is no excuse for abusive behaviors, and initially, you should always plan an exit route, pack 1 bag, contact 1 person who is not friends or family with the abuser, and save up enough money on a pre-paid visa so when you need to leave you can dial Uber or Lyft. If you have a vehicle make an extra key, and wait. its easy to want to tell the abuser what you were planning, because for a moment they make themselves so available and understanding, but it will happen again, and when you read my book i hope you are able to make the best decision. I hope my book reassures you that it’s not always your fault, and abuse can wear many costumes. Dial your local helpline in my county it is a short code 2-1-1 and asks for an anonymous reference. There are so many willing survivors out there that will help you get out, as well as hide you until you feel you can safely start your journey back to yourself. A lot of domestic violence shelters will allow you to bring your children, or ask a family member to care for your children so you can work on yourself. A week or 2 vacations will be fun for your kiddos, and you will feel the ultimate feelings of success when you return to them as the mother they saw all along… Super Mom.

Qn 9: What was your motivation behind writing your book, Don’t You Dare Text Him Back: Toxic Relationship Recovery?

I was raised in a very verbal and judgemental home. I come from a Sicilian family, my grandmother was from Palermo. Her love was name-calling, and it was very common that she would point out how fat you were. I held that inside and developed a very distorted view of my body and self. As I grew older I started dating and the slew of toxic partners came. I married a very good man who treated me like a queen, however, I feel I was so used to the toxic relationships I grew bored of the simplicity of my marriage. The first sign of trouble (he struggled with alcoholism) I booked it. Then another and another, and I started to notice that I was picking men that had toxic traits in order to feel comfortable with my life and environment. I was toxic myself obviously if I found comfort in such a thing, and it was at that point I knew I had to fix myself and find the healthy aspects of relationships in order to lead a prosperous life. I started to work on myself, and it helped me see so many flaws, but I saw them, and that’s what mattered. if you don’t see the flaw you can’t fix it, and that’s all I had to do. I am still in the process of recovery, but today is better than yesterday.

Qn 10: What do you plan to work on next?

I am writing an autobiography in memory of a friend. I am looking forward to the journey as I learn all about her life, and it has so far been emotional, to say the least. I am very excited to release it in may 2023 (fingers crossed), along with that I will be releasing “Don’t you dare text her back:” Toxic Relationship Guidebook next month.

Don’t You Dare Text Him Back: Toxic Relationship Recovery available on Amazon

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